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I was a stone cold Black nationalist and was proud to be called a “brother.” I did my share of sit-in’s, protest marches, forums and conspiracies. I would gladly have taken a bullet for my woman and for my race. When the time came to bring my contribution to nation building to life, “brother-man” ran with his tail between his legs, succumbing to fear and selfishness.
I am a former co-conspirator to murder. I was so fearful and self-centered that I put my own flesh and blood to the knife on an abortionist’s table in New York City.
There are consequences when we abandon our God-designed role as provider and protector of our families. Whether you drove your wife/fiancée/girlfriend to the “clinic” as I did years ago—or were an agreeable, non-present partner—something inside you died when your child died.
As for me, my manhood and self-respect died. The natural, God-given drive, leadership and protection instilled in a man for his family died. I lost a son who would have been twenty-eight this year. He would have been an older brother for my son and two daughters who are alive today. It did not stop there. Miscarriage, a common side effect of abortion, banged down my door and took my youngest daughter shortly after.
I lost the trust, respect and deep companionship of my wife —we behaved more like roommates than spouses. For years she loathed the sight of me because I didn’t have the courage to say, “let’s get married, have this child, and have a life.” Instead, I was derelict of all my manly duties and chose what I thought was the easy way out.
I remember my shame. I was unwilling to tackle the responsibility of raising a child and supporting a family. I wanted to continue “shacking up” and not pay any penalties. It was easy for me to buy into the lie “the unborn is not a child”—even though I knew in my heart I was wrong. My heart was stone.
“How can a wife trust a husband who will end his son’s life? What would people think of me if they knew?” Questions like these weighed heavily on my mind. Like most men, I “got on” with life. I buried myself in causes, ministries, vocations, newspapers and recreation. All the while, self-hatred anchored me to my albatross—mediocrity. This further pounded nails into my wife’s heart—and my own.
Maybe you’re the father whose child was aborted without your knowledge or consent. Maybe you pleaded with the mother to keep the child or choose adoption, only to be told you had no right or say in the matter. You are the real brothers because you fought for your family! You survived the legally imposed impotence that bludgeoned your fatherhood, leaving millions of our brothers grief stricken—with rage searing through your heart like a hot branding iron. The day your child died, you died too.
Want a snapshot of America? The 1973 Roe v. Wade decision devastated the family and destroyed whole populations. And it is morphing into something worse.
Remember Terry Schiavo? “Euthanasia” is a euphemism for adult abortion, and it is reaching for everyone regardless of age or capacity. All of this is an example of how our culture is in desperate straights because we have cheapened life and deemed people disposable - all for the sake of convenience.
African American men: Listen to me! The leading cause of death for Blacks in the United States is not Aids, violence, accidents, cancer or heart disease – it’s abortion. Abortion kills four times more Blacks than all of these other causes combined! Over a third of our race (35%) is gone - I and maybe even you have contributed to the genocide of our own people!
This February, as Black history month approaches, let us reflect on the millions of potential Black scientists, social workers, pastors, engineers, teachers, business men and women, or leaders who tasted and felt the burning saline solution and the abortionist hardware before they saw the light of day. How many times have the researchers who would have found the cure for breast cancer that is killing our women by the millions, or diabetes, been dismembered in our women’s wombs without us as men lifting a finger to save our own flesh and blood? Brothers, this is to our shame.
Millions of men, regardless of race or social standing, have become molesters instead of protectors; abandoning instead of providing; and seeking convenience instead of responsibility. Their hearts are cold and callused as mine was, and they are acting out in unsavory behaviors. Or, on the opposite spectrum, there are the millions of fathers whose fatherhood was taken and whose hearts are bleeding in the form of alcoholism, drug and sexual addiction, or unable to trust or bond with a woman or children or other men. These men seem outwardly “ok.” But inwardly they are descending in a lonely, dark pit that only others similarly situated can fully understand.
That is why I am passionate about supporting abortion recovery ministries and strongly urge men to participate in one if you, your wife or girlfriend have been involved with abortion. My wife and I were able to go through abortion recovery, and our marriage and family were restored. Individually, we have reconciled with God and our children and have experienced a peace that permeates our hearts. Together we founded Everlasting Light Ministries where we are reaching those devastated by abortion, one soul at a time.
As black men, let us take responsibility and have the courage to say—what I did not say many years ago—“Honey, let’s do the right thing, believe God, and bring this child into the world as husband and wife.”
Rev. Brian & Rev. Denise Walker founded Everlasting Light Ministries, which is dedicated to exposing the lies about abortion and revealing the truth about its genocidal effects, and re-establishing the culture of marriage in the African American community. They co-authored and conduct Rich in Mercy, an abortion and miscarriage recovery program, and Everlasting Love, a marriage enrichment and restoration course. The Walkers are seasoned communicators, appearing as guests and co-hosts on radio; keynote speakers at statewide and local conferences and pro-life events; and seminar presenters.
To contact the Walkers, call 763-560-8383 or visit www.everlastinglightministries.org
